Age difference in teen dating
This past March, they got married, and in April they moved to Chicago to build a life together.But they’re rarely read as the wives that they are. Stop.”“Power exchanges between women are always pathologized,” Myles says.“I didn’t want her to feel taken advantage of later on.I just wanted to hang back and let her be a young woman in the city.” Both women were living in the Bay Area at the time, working as software engineers.(Both women requested not to be named for this story, to protect the sensitive nature of T’s professional life.) Strangers are always trying to figure out how they’re related.T has a 5-year-old son; when the whole family is out together, M is sometimes assumed to be the nanny. “As a mixed black woman,” M says, “that plays into [other people’s] assumptions whenever [T] walks into the room.”M finds that when she does get prying age-related questions, they tend to be from straight men, who will openly question her and T’s compatibility.That these age differences are oftentimes considered gross or salacious is pretty galling, since we’re all quite comfortable seeing older men date much younger women: Take all the James Bond films.Take Emma Stone, Scarlett Johansson, and Jennifer Lawrence’s entire careers.
Women who date significantly up or significantly down radically subvert heteronormative standards for what’s appropriate when it comes to sex and love.
In the newly released season two of Transparent, there's another distinctly Myles-like older dyke poet character (Myles and Transparent's creator, Jill Soloway, are currently dating), who, when hanging around with a younger woman, deals with an awkward Is-that-your-girlfriend-or-your-daughter mixup.