American culture on dating
I mean I was the quintessential Black Woman on her journey to self-rediscovery. Iyanla would say, my therapist and I agreed it wouldn’t be a bad idea to get back into the dating scene.Sure, I had developed some great communication skills, learned a lot about compromise and partnership, and even more about realistic partner expectations.Various factors played into this phenomenon which has yet to be identified in any other ethnic group.One being the crack epidemic of the ’80s that shifted many households from dual to single, another being the mass incarceration epidemic that followed shortly thereafter.Surely, I could mold a potential mate into the guy I wanted, right?
That might seem redundant but actually desiring marriage isn’t something we discuss too often.
A couple of years ago, after a string of failed relationships, I took some time to reevaluate my whole damn life.
I knew what I wanted, or at least what I was supposed to want, and I thought I was clear with my intentions when it came to dating.
In contrast, other non-American Black communities view marriage as a part of maturing and coming of age.
Marriage is celebrated and seen as one of the most important cultural traditions, not just for little girls, but for little boys as well.I had dated men who thought marriage wasn’t necessarily a bad idea, men who thought marriage was a take it or leave it type of ordeal, and men who felt like marriage just wasn’t for them.