Be less intimidating to men mandating healthcare
This reminds me of this incident two years ago where a friend’s friend, Kev, who is a spiritual practitioner, located me in a very busy locale in Hong Kong by way of my aura—during peak hours no less. It got to a point where I questioned my femininity. Rita thought for a while, and said, “I think that might be true for other girls.
(I was in Hong Kong then for a business trip.) While my friend Fenix was getting ready to text me and check where I was, Kev simply told him, “No need. But for you Jie, I think it’s more of a case that guys are afraid you would hurt them.” While my immediate reaction was to burst out laughing because the thought of that happening sounded so ludicrous, I immediately stopped to think right after.
While I’m consistently building on my feminine qualities, I felt—at that time—that my drive, my strength, and achievements were offsetting whatever femininity I had—and in a way, my “appeal” and “draw” towards men.
I felt sad and conflicted because it seemed that I was making myself increasingly unappealing to men by virtue of every step I took in my career and growth.
I can understand the source of these comments, for I’ve achieved certain noteworthy milestones in my life.
I would hide my opinions, unless asked to speak—even then, I would be very choiceful about what I said and how I said it. I would stay away from talking about myself or anything that would remotely suggest I was capable or in a place of power. Some would try to put me down and rebut whatever I say. That perhaps, it was just not in my destiny to be with someone in this lifetime, and I could only wish for that in my next life.