Dating sites for those who want to get married
magazine has an interesting article out this month called “Why You Should Stop Googling Your Dates.” In it, author Samantha Henig argues that online information about potential dates can be problematic.., an associate professor of information at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, who explains that the treasure trove of data available via social media sites has encouraged people to treat their dating options like a shopping experience. Rather, appreciate that there are a lot of benefits to being single and that they may have trouble giving those up. Help them build their self-efficacy by encouraging them.
I've certainly been guilty of the picky-shopper approach: Some nights I have two tabs on my computer open at once—Anthropologie for clothes and Ok Cupid for guys. Remind them how good they are at facing other challenges in their lives.
You were lucky enough to pick someone who ended up being a good (or at least tolerable) match for you.
Whatever revelations came after the “I Do”s were things you could live with.
However, this does not mean that the person does not still .
Telling her to go out there and do more of what has not worked for her may be practical—there are only so many ways to find potential partners—but of course she’s going to balk.
It’s not an either/or issue—you’re either dying to get married or you’re damned if you’re going to give up singlehood. "You think you know what you want, but what you really need is to sit across from each other and get a beer."Yes, good online dating leads to sitting down and getting a drink, but it’s easy to rule out potentially wonderful partners based on negligible facts.
(Unless you’re the sister of one of my students, who has had getting coffee with strangers. Add to that the fact that dating is time consuming.
When you have a busy job or children, for example, there may be barriers to going out with every potential match you meet.
Coupled people may not always realize that singlehood can also be incredibly reinforcing.
Singles often enjoy their autonomy—for example, they don’t have to share financial decisions, they can come home whenever they like, and they can maintain their own space exactly the way they want it.
While it may seem just that simple from the married side of the fence (just the way it does from the non-depressed side of the fence), it’s not.